Good service leadership at all levels is indispensable for our future functioning and safety. 

I began service in SA to practice leadership based on the principles and values I am learning from our 12-Step program and to learn a new sober way of life and functioning in the world. SA service means I am too focused on helping sexaholics find the Program and affirming them in their recovery.

The principles and values of SA service leadership are not based on getting attention, gaining approval, or winning. In my experience, the principles and values are quite different from the keys to corporate success that many of us have learned. It is about holding space for options and opportunities while listening for the voice of our Higher Power speaking from within ourselves, and within the voice of other SA members. It involves speaking our truths and humbly being silent while listening.

When I became a Trustee and a member of the Public Information Committee (PIC), I had to reflect on my motive for service. My motive for service on the Board of Trustees (BoT) and the PIC is not based on “you and me against the world,” “we versus them,” or even “there but for the grace of God go I.” It is about the humble admission “there I am also”; it is about “all of us together.” My motive is to serve, attempting to communicate “hope and our truths” through the marketplace of social media, rampant with toxic addictive lust. 

To do this, our message must come from a sober self–in a clear and clean appeal to the heart(the higher self) of both the active and the recovering addict. By higher self I am referring to that incorruptible part of the self that knows truth and goodness when it is heard or experienced. Additionally, I find the “there I am also” motive draws me into fellowship and inspires gratitude, joy, compassion, generosity, and a respectful caution for my own safety and the safety of others in all that we do.