Note from the Delegate Chair

Dear Fellow SA Members:

This quarter I would like to share my deep gratitude for Roy K.’s impact on my life, as I have expressed in my following letter to him.

May we in the fellowship continue to surrender our will to God’s will, and dedicate ourselves in unity to Sexaholics Anonymous. Be active guardians of the fellowship, and continue to find serenity, sobriety, and progressive victory over lust. Our common welfare in unity depends on each one of us and is paramount to our recovery. God bless all of you as you serve one day at a time.

Gratitude for a Day Spent With Roy

Dear Roy,

It is comforting to know that you are with Him who sustained you throughout your life. I’m grateful that you started Sexaholics Anonymous and stuck to your direction from God. When we spoke recently, your primary purpose was to remind me of how to focus on “The Searchlight of the Spirit” by following His path and giving thanks to God each day. You reminded us all to be one in unity in lust recovery and sobriety, and to be humble.

When I was sitting with you on your porch this past summer, sharing about the SA fellowship, you kept asking, “What is the greatest need of the Fellowship?” I remembered that my therapist had told me I was hopeless, but you helped me understand and accept that I am not hopeless unless I fall away from God’s influence in my actions and in working the Steps each day of my life. You shared with me that SA is not for everyone. It is for those who want sobriety and victory over lust, accepting what we have and moving forward.

Your love for the fellowship was not overshadowed by your fear of the fellowship and its direction. You kept reminding me of the need to accept the program as it is. Your message has always been to keep the principle of sobriety and lust recovery moving forward. In speaking with you, I felt your urgency to encourage the fellowship to follow the spirit of the program and stay the course that was set out in the 70s and 80s.

I was grateful that you had to take a nap, so I could visit with your wife. What a gift she has been to the program. Going into your office in the garage, I felt warmth and peace. What a gift that was! I was moved by your excitement in explaining how you finished the ceiling off with the wood, and how you used this room for solace and for keeping the message going. I was overwhelmed by your organization and the amount of material you have stored. As we read one of the articles in your files, then discussed it, I felt blessed as you shared how God directed you to write it. You kept reminding me it was God and you were only a vessel. I wanted to find a way to live in this garage for a year, just to read and discuss the fellowship.

Our time together was a gift to me from God. It was comforting to sit, share, and feel a oneness of spirit. Thank you for being a beacon of light for SA and for giving so much of yourself for others. I care about you and am grateful for the many opportunities we had to share the fellowship of the spirit together.

— Mike S.

Thank you, Roy

We had a newcomer meeting tonight — a fitting way to honor our founder’s passing. At the close of sharing, we read the final paragraphs of “A Personal Story” from Sexaholics Anonymous (p. 25):

“I can’t believe that the person I’m writing about today is the same one who used to think and do the things I’ve been describing. Actually, that other person was a slave; he was living in a world of fantasy and illusion, only for himself, and always alone. He had never matured through emotional adolescence and was spiritually dead. He could not cope either with his own emotions or with life in the big world out there, and was constantly running. Running to satisfy demands and lusts that could never be satisfied. Running from who he really was; running from others; running from life; running from God, the source of his life.

The running is over. I’ve found what I was really looking for.”

Thanks for letting God use you, Roy.

May you rest in peace.