Why is sobriety not something easy to grasp? Because it is very simple! Much has been said and tried to improve the sobriety of sexaholics; however, I cannot find a more efficient way than doing the following:

1- complete abstinence.
2- working with others.
3- attending meetings.

What about complete abstinence? This is, for me at least, the simplest one, as it requires some self-discipline and understanding of the behavior patterns. I cannot stay sober while I keep hiding many small bottles here and there. Hidden lust bottles that are labeled “slips” are extremely risky to me! I am very allergic to lust. No matter how small the portion is, I simply cannot take it! My body and mind react differently to them. I develop an obsession which will eventually make a relapse inevitable. I should and must stop at all costs! The more tolerant I am, the worse I get.

Now let’s talk about working with others. Why is intensive work with others a guarantee for recovery? Because I will not relapse when I work the steps with another addict who needs help! I’ll be closer to my Higher Power with a functioning spiritual awakening and combined with a positive attitude to life. Working with and helping others is a joy for a lonely person like me. It gives me a sense of value and respect. With Covid-19, the SA fellowship has expanded utilization of online meetings widely which helps me to work with many fellows around the world! I am globally connected! Working with others is not easily done without meetings (my last point).

Meetings! I must say that I have been very blessed to join SA when the pandemic was soaring. Skype, Zoom, WhatsApp, Google Meet, etc. The SA meeting is as close as the phone in my pocket. I am able to attend meetings from different world locations by just clicking a link! This is also a great way to meet newcomers and maybe my future sponsees! I have no excuse for staying away from meetings now. Distance is not the issue anymore.

It is really impressive how attending a Step work meeting and working with others can help me achieve abstinence! The number of ways that keeps me sober is really amazing.