In his article, “I Was at Peace”, this member shares how he approached disclosing to his wife. He took a number of recovery actions before having that conversation with her.

Have you read “A Caution” from the White Book, page three? Have you given yourself time to take the Steps and gain some sobriety before approaching the subject?

If you have disclosed to your spouse right away and in detail, how did it go?

Do you think only disclosing what the spouse already knows is a way of protecting the spouse from extra trauma?

What are some motives for disclosing right away without a time of sobriety and discernment? Are those motives God-centered or self-centered?

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