Personally I feel that as a sexaholic, any sobriety other than SA’s would give me easy ways out. I just lost a friend because I did not want to have sex with him. Although I miss him, I have absolutely no regrets about having made no compromise with my sobriety. I feel clean. If I had been in a group where sobriety is defined by each member, I might have been tempted to say—and I was anyway—that maybe I could give up my sobriety and leave SA. I thought about it for a few seconds and realized that even if I could do that, it would not be good for my friend and I in the long run as a couple. I saw right away that I had to stick to my sobriety no matter what. I’m so happy that I had SA’s principles to guide me. I know already all the pain I’m avoiding by not getting into relationships that would lead me to compromise my sobriety. Many times in the past I made compromises and it never got me anywhere except to years of suffering.

If I was in a group where someone said that in their sobriety they can masturbate, I know that after a while I would probably think I can try that, too. I would probably also try committed relationships and a lot of other things. I, personally, need to stay sober and SA offers me that possibility. SA is the mirror of what my heart always wanted and after many years of compromise and pain, I believe that I now have the opportunity of getting what I really want and need. Do you have any idea how thrilled I am about all this? I’m coming home. I feel pure again, and believe it or not, I’m starting to feel like a virgin again. This year, in SA and with my Higher Power, I have found my dignity again. Thank you! I feel good about myself and my limits. I feel good about SA and I feel good about my Higher Power.