(From January 1995 Conference in LA. Ed.)

Dying: Admit I am powerless over lust; that my sex, sexuality, orientation and relational misconnection are unmanageable.

Needing: Know I need a Power greater than myself to restore me to sexual and relational sanity.

Surrendering: Turn my will, sex, sexuality, orientation, and relationships over to the care of God.

Seeing: See and tell the truth of myself in the light of those who are recovering and write a moral inventory of myself.

Exposing: Share this inventory with another recovering person.

Cleansing: Bring God into each defect of character that is revealed, asking that it be removed and continue bringing it into the light of others and God until I am released from its power over me.

Changing: Make direct amends to all persons I have harmed, except when doing so would injure them or others and continue looking at where I am wrong and promptly amending it.

Forgiving: Ask for the willingness to forgive all persons guilty of real or imagined wrongs against me and forgive each one.

Receiving: Receive God into each fantasy and temptation to lust, misconnection, resentment, fear, etc.—into the very temptation itself. Instead of acting out or thinking out, let God in.

Giving: Join with others in helping other pseudosexuals find this God who is saving me from my lust and from myself.

Praying: Seek through prayer and meditation to improve my connection with others and God.

Living: Make these principles a way of living, taking the actions of love—especially when the feeling of love is absent—to improve my relations with others.