I get very uncomfortable when I hear: “These are my boundaries. I focus on my boundaries. If I don’t do a, b, c, x, y, and z—then I will be OK.”

My take is this: if we could just “not do” x, y, and z we wouldn’t need the SA program! Relying on “boundaries” is not an SA concept. When I start thinking, “I can handle this,” I have forgotten my First Step. I am powerless over lust, and must find a Power greater than myself to solve my problem.

Instead of using “boundaries” to keep me sober, I rely on the grace of a Higher Power.