One year into my sobriety (thanks to His grace) I began my first ever 90 days of sexual abstinence with my wife. Then my sponsor gave me the following direction: “We want you to give up your right to drive your car, one day at a time.”

The reason? I don’t use a car as it’s intended to be used. I often drive impatiently. I recently restarted cruising, a dangerous behavior since I’ve picked up guys for sex in the past. In short, I was spiraling down, and my sponsor saw it.

I was upset about giving up driving. I prayed for willingness. I needed a car to get to work, to attend four to five recovery meetings a week, and for the other things a busy father, husband and businessman do each day.

As I write this, it has been 35 days of not driving and even more days of abstinence. It’s been over a year of surrendering my smartphone for a “smarter” flip phone without internet. Life is so much better than it was. Serenity comes more often, and lust is so much less a part of my life. I am amazed!

Since I am an industrial strength sexaholic, I’m so thankful for tough guidance. I am grateful for rides, for God granting me willingness one day at a time, and for Sexaholics Anonymous.