He learned the true meaning of what it means to be a winner. 

I’ve never loved that saying because I was a chronic slipper. It sounds like there are winners and losers in recovery. But that’s not how our Fellowship works. A more honest version might be: “Stick with the sober members.” In SA, there are only two kinds of people—those who are sober today, and those who are not yet sober. Both belong here. 

Losers aren’t the ones who slip or struggle. Losers are the ones who never show up at all. The real winners are the people who walk through these doors, sober or not, willing to admit they need help. That takes courage, honesty, and is the beginning of recovery.

Our only requirement for membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober. If we’re trying and showing up, if we’re willing to keep coming back, we are all winners. Those who are struggling aren’t failing; they’re miracles in progress. Every day we keep coming back, we’re choosing to be on the winning side.