Binghamton, NY

Our group is still small—nine in all—but we have good attendance at meetings, and growing sobriety. Honesty and solid sharing mark our meetings, which include at times hearty laughter, at other times the weeping that comes from intense pain or joyous release. Not everyone has a sponsor, and that’s troublesome. We’re also working on starting and closing our meetings punctually. Also, not everyone who joins our group stays, but we make no bones about our sobriety definition—it stays as defined on pp. 191-193 of the SA Big Book. We have found that that’s the only thing that brings sobriety and progressive victory—God’s, not ours—over lust, one day at a time.

Brooklyn, NY

As of today we have six members who have committed to attend on a regular basis the business meetings which are held the last Sunday of each month. In addition, a regular meeting, which is held each Sunday evening, is attended by four to eight people. Each meeting begins with a 15-20 minute qualification by a speaker who has been invited and who has at least six months’ sobriety. While we permit anyone who has the desire to stop acting out sexually to share at meetings, only those who adhere to the sobriety definition of no sex with others outside the marriage and no sex with oneself may hold service positions, qualify, or celebrate yearly anniversaries.

We are planning—pending group conscience approval next month—our first anniversary celebration meeting at the end of November. With God’s help one day at a time, two members and three visiting members will be celebrating first-year anniversaries. As a group we are grateful to SA for the sobriety definition and feel that SA has a very specific message to carry to the sick and suffering sexaholic. We need to receive that message and be part of a strong fellowship with a strong message. We look forward to receiving that support and in the spirit of the 12th Step “to carry the message to sexaholics and practice these principles in all our affairs.”