I want to express my gratitude and excitement for the “White Book,” Sexaholics Anonymous. It confirms so much of my experience in what works for me in recovery.

I was in a Christian mind-control cult for years. The experience led me to relinquish calling myself a Christian. Twelve-Step recovery gave me God back in a way I never had. But because of my familiarity with the Bible, finding Biblical phrases sprinkled throughout the White Book made it come alive to me even more.

The White Book also cites passages from the AA Big Book and Twelve and Twelve that are the same passages that work for me in sexual recovery. It is so comforting to have my experience validated, to find out that other people are strengthened in sobriety by the same parts of the AA book.

I love the way the White Book talks about connectedness and misconnections; how it describes surrender and letting go. I got so excited about this because that’s how I experienced it. The passages on pp. 86-87, 102, and 145-146 really jumped out at me, especially the part about how sobriety is a positive thing and “dry” is a “not.”

The other sex fellowship group that I go to doesn’t have much sobriety — not to be taking their inventory — but I felt so alone here at times because people didn’t understand what I was talking about. More than anything, SA got me sexually sober, by the grace of God, of course.

I’ve only got seven months of solid sexual sobriety and I’m so grateful to find this book to confirm my experience. The early parts of the book with descriptions of kinds of denial really made me squirm. It was humbling and I believe that those passages have helped me to face my powerlessness even more. I can see where they’ll help me to avoid relapses because it described some of my thoughts there.

The White Book made me realize that I have much to learn about sobriety and how to rely on and relate to God. It cut my ego down to size just when I was getting cocky. Thank you! I think it would be a blessing if I could be penpals with somebody from SA. Maybe I could be helpful to them if there is somebody interested in fellowship-by-mail.