Our next edition’s theme is “A Great Caution is Advised.”  This caution is in the White Book on page three, “We suggest that newcomers…not reveal their sexual past to a spouse or family member who does not already know of it, without careful consideration…” Similar caution is in the Big Book. Page 81 says, “If we are sure our wife does not know, should we tell her? Not always, we think.” These cautions introduce the idea that there is a difference between relaying information that helps build up or that which can harm a loved one. Pausing and taking the necessary time while taking the Steps helps prepare one to be in a better place to decide such matters and therefore truly help that individual.  

ESSAY is your magazine. It is your experience, strength, and hope that carries the message of recovery to the still-suffering sexaholic. Please consider sharing your experience with the Fellowship by submitting an article to essay@sa.org.