My name is José and I am a recovering sexaholic. I am only 25 years old and I joined SA when I was 19. Many ask me how I joined the fellowship so young and if I was really sure that I was a sexaholic. And my answer is always, “The fact that masturbation and lustful thoughts made me suffer so much and I wasn’t able to get out of it, said enough about my condition.” I am also used to saying, “The very fact that I came to you to ask for help, says it all—no one asks for outside help if they can manage it on their own.”

Despite being a serious person with a lot of willpower and being devoted and responsible, the power lust had over me was getting out of hand. That is why I came to SA.

I have had many ups and downs in these years but today by God’s grace I have a year of sobriety. How do I do it? I really don’t, I just remind myself that I’m allergic to lust and that whenever I mess with it, I end up badly, ashamed, disconnected and with a nasty hangover. I must work the Steps and develop spiritually, as well as monitor my feelings and emotions, and be in a grateful and positive attitude towards life.

On second thought, being young and already being in SA is a pure and great blessing! Whereas I used to be completely absorbed in my disease, my thoughts, technological devices, etc., today I am free to notice the little things of life—the clouds, flowers, trees, …