Have you sought support to help you find the good in grief? 

Jack’s in-depth article describes how unprocessed grief can greatly contribute to the addictive process. He explains how support in SA, especially from an understanding sponsor, helped him discuss the losses in his life and cultivate gratitude.  

Did you, like Jack, have a history of withdrawing from family and friends to avoid disappointments or loss? Do you have a sponsor or professional help that you trust who can listen to your experiences of loss? 

Have you considered writing a gratitude list for the people, places, and things in your life that have passed away? Do you pray for the family of loved ones who have passed away? If you are from a tradition that prays for the diseased, have you considered praying for them?

Have you considered working Steps One, Two, and Three on those you have lost? Do you participate in the Fellowship and attend memorials of SA members? Do you think it might be helpful to see how the Fellowship comes together to support each other during these times?

You may use this topic in a discussion meeting, or send us a story of your own recovery journey to essay@sa.org.