It has been way over a decade since our founder died. Roy K. died on September 15, 2009 at the age of 82. He died with approximately 33 years of sexual sobriety. 

Why am I sharing about it now? I just don’t want the Fellowship to forget the gift this man brought us. 

He was a very modest person. Although he was known for many accomplishments, including being a playwright, he always remained humble and unassuming. He would never let us take a photo of him. He did not even want to write a book for the program. After much cajoling, we persuaded him to write and publish the SA White Book. He followed that with a second book called Recovery Continues. Many people do not realize that the stories in the SA White Book are Roy’s own experiences, especially concerning his marriage. He supported SA financially from his own finances for many years. Central Office was in his home in Simi Valley. He was never too busy to help us one-on-one. He never seemed to stop trying to improve the Fellowship.

He was also the recipient of much of the tensions we placed on him in our early years of our recovery. In my opinion, he was given a gift to bring to the world the concept of sexual addiction and powerlessness over lust, rather than putting the emphasis on acting out. 

My conversations with him by phone always ended with him saying, “Let us pray now.” 

I was so privileged to have had him in my life, and yet, while he was alive, my rebelliousness blocked me from experiencing how great a gift this man had given me. 

May he always be remembered as a vessel that was used to help save our physical, spiritual, and emotional lives.