…We are still having some difficulty, however, with members who accepted the bottom line sobriety definition but continue acting out in other ways. This is particularly so with voyeuristic aspects of their disease as well as concerning relationship preoccupations.
I’ve only been in the program about 15 months and continue to be amazed at the difference it makes in my life. I think the greatest thing is the friends in the group, and the continued support. Ours is a good group, some growing going on here. The toughest part of this work remains turning my life and will over to God as I understand God. A day at a time.
Enclosed is a check for the support of SA and in appreciation for being left on your mailing list. I have been sober for 18 months. My marriage of 28 years is slowly getting better. I like myself more and I am beginning to experience some peace within myself. I believe that God is working his purposes for His creatures through SA in a marvelous way.
Some notices found on the bulletin board of the Klinik at Bad Herrenalb, West Germany, where Roy held the workshops last November:
We are growing weekly in numbers (12-18 average) and sobriety (90+ days average). Sobriety goals reached are 1 1/2 years (1 member), 1 year (1 member), 9 months (2 members), and several coming up on 6 months. This group is 16 months in existence. Through the grace, love, and power of God, we are staying sober and finding a new way of life.
Things are going well for us here in the Eleventh Hour SA Group. Many are growing in their recovery as we meet each week. We average in attendance about seven members. Again, we would like to thank you for all the help you have been to us in the past. Many times we have asked for information, books, and other material, and have been sent everything we asked for and often more. These things have always proved invaluable to us.
Please call the Central Office for meeting information when on travel. (Roy does not have meeting schedules or contacts at his home telephone number.) If you call our standard number, the call still comes through, but it costs the Central Office a little more. Thank you.
In the last issue of Essay, we published requests for feedback from groups that are experiencing problems or have questions about the way in which meetings should be run. R.B. in Wichita Falls wrote asking how other groups address the problem of a high rate of dropouts, and J.B. in Chicago wrote asking how other groups manage to give everyone enough time to speak.
Roy attended the biannual German SA Convention in Schneverdingen November 4, 5, and 6 and other German SA meetings during his three-week trip in Europe. He had not been to Germany for three years and reports being joyously grateful for the quality of meetings and sobriety there. He reports that the sobriety imperative is “alive and well in Germany.”
I came to SA to save my marriage. I was addicted to sex with my wife and she could not tolerate it anymore. The emptiness left inside from the divorce was so great that no amount of sexual acting out could fill it. It was at this bottom that I got my current sexual sobriety. I accepted the fact of my addiction and knew deep in my heart that sexual sobriety was the only solution.
