Le fait d'être célibataire et sobre lui a permis d'entendre la volonté de la Puissance supérieure à son égard. Je suis sobre depuis plusieurs années maintenant et j'ai fait mes premiers pas vers le rétablissement. Par « rétablissement », je ne veux pas seulement dire travailler les étapes, mais que je suis littéralement en train de « me rétablir ». Je parle de guérison et de restauration.
J'ai rompu avec ma dernière petite amie lorsque j'ai rejoint le programme, après deux ans de relation. La raison était mon aveu choquant de la vérité sur moi-même : je l'avais utilisée pour trouver une estime de moi-même à ses dépens, satisfaire mes désirs sexuels et ne pas me sentir seul. Cette prise de conscience était douloureuse, mais honnête et donc salutaire.
The author of the article “The Availability to Dive” brings to light how beneficial it can be to live single while recovering. While it can also be challenging, the single life can give us the time needed to learn how to live without our drug and relate to others. This prepares those who plan to sober date at some point.
This period in his life has given him time to grow. Hi, I'm James D., and I’ve been incarcerated since January 28, 2022. I’ve been sexually sober since November 29, 2023—one year, ten months, and one day from the worst day of my life. That day, I experienced the first of many of the best days of my life: the day I entered sobriety.
It can seem that being happy and single are two ideas that don’t fit together. What a great discovery to learn that our joy does not rely on a relationship or even marriage! It relies on following the will of God through working the Steps.
Surrendering her life to God through the steps I am single in SA. And I am content. How is that possible? It is possible because I feel content each day as I surrender to my Higher Power's care. I don't look into the future about what that means. My focus is on today.
Hearing others share from their weakness helped him realize he was not alone. Hi, I’m Justin, I'm a grateful recovering sexaholic. I came to SA in 2019 when a priest friend introduced me to the Fellowship. I had just started a new job and it was summertime. He invited me to a meeting, gave me the SA White Book, and encouraged me to attend. At that first meeting, I heard other men share openly about their struggles—not just with masturbation and pornography, but with lust itself. I immediately felt connected. For the first time, I realized I wasn’t alone.
Having had a spiritual experience has allowed her to accept the plans God has for her personal life. Sitting in the counselor's office in early 2020, I voiced my biggest fear: that one day my sexual behavior would destroy a marriage.
Learning how to surrender and open up to healthy activities affirmed that he belonged. My name is Ryan, and I am a child of my Higher Power. As a former SA sponsor once humorously suggested, “You qualify to be in the program, you are one of us!”
Sobriety has helped him deal with the highs and lows of being single. I am single. I am not always happy, joyous, and free. It can be lonely. Divorce is painful. I don't feel happy, joyous, and free.
