Practical Tools

The Program Is My Parachute Today

When I was 18, I went on a parachute course with a few friends. I was looking for a new adventure and an experience that I could feel proud about. After one day’s instruction on the theory, we were given the go-ahead to make our jump. We would be using the “static-line” technique for our jump. Here, a cord runs from the parachute to a rail fixed on the inside of the plane. When you jump, the cord pays out, then pulls out your parachute; you don’t have to do anything.

By |2023-10-18T11:03:08-05:00October 5, 2023|Comments Off on The Program Is My Parachute Today
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The Only Answer Is Doing the Right Thing Myself

Recently, I had a spiritual awakening as I watched a well-made movie, based on true events, about a young lawyer who, 15 years after the second World War, decided to pursue the people responsible for Auschwitz. A lot of these people, after the war, had taken all kinds of ordinary jobs: primary school teachers, woodcutters, bakers, businessmen, dentists, etc.

By |2023-10-18T11:03:27-05:00October 4, 2023|Comments Off on The Only Answer Is Doing the Right Thing Myself
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The Attitude of Surrender

Temptations most often come to me unannounced. If I am working my program well, I stay away from places and activities that create temptations. Sometimes, the temptations make me feel guilty even when I didn’t seek them out or indulge them. A conversation with my sponsor helps me sort that kind of thing out. In every case though, I have a Higher Power, a 12-Step program in SA, and the benefits of fellowship which remind me to surrender all lust temptations.

By |2023-10-18T11:04:26-05:00October 4, 2023|Comments Off on The Attitude of Surrender
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Music As a Spiritual Experience

CONNECTING WITH A HIGHER POWER Two of the best tools in my “spiritual toolkit” for connecting with the Divine Intelligence (along with working the Steps, attending meetings, talking with my sponsor, and service work in the SA fellowship) are singing and playing (or listening to) music. Music is a lifelong passion for me and an important component of my recovery.

By |2024-08-22T13:10:29-05:00July 27, 2023|Comments Off on Music As a Spiritual Experience
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Praying Outside of the House

One of the practical tools I have found most helpful in recovery, particularly as a method of working step 11, has been setting aside time to pray outside of my house during the day. I have worked remotely since the start of COVID lockdowns in 2020, so I am often able to get away, doing so to houses of worship nearby my home. I have also done so in parks, airport chapels, or in lobbies or waiting rooms when out and about.

By |2023-09-06T12:13:02-05:00June 4, 2023|Comments Off on Praying Outside of the House
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Using the Tools Shifted Her Vision

I received some news about my health that I was not quite ready for. It meant multiple trips to the doctor and waiting on test results. Waiting has never been a strong suit of mine. I found myself wrestling with fear, for as a sex addict, fear can be quite triggering. Fear is the spark that, if not surrendered to my Higher Power, can start a forest fire of bad decisions.

By |2024-08-23T12:54:57-05:00June 4, 2023|Comments Off on Using the Tools Shifted Her Vision
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لم أستسلم، لقد سلَّمت

لم أستسلم ، لقد سلَّمت. بدأت رحلتي في هذا البرنامج عندما أخبرني صديق من Al-Anon أنني سكيرة جنس. لإثبات خطأها ، وافقت على الذهاب إلى ستة اجتماعات من س.ج.م. خلال تلك الاجتماعات الستة ، اعترفت ببطء بأنني كنت سكيرة جنس. في البداية لم أقم بأي اتصال بصري مع الأعضاء الآخرين ولم أشارك. كانت هناك ست نساء أخريات من س.ج.م. في أول اجتماع لي في المجموعة الأساسية. ذهبنا إلى اجتماعين في الأسبوع كمجموعة، مما ساعدني على أن أرتبط مع البرنامج ثم بدأت في المشاركة. عندما تأهلت ، كان علي أن أتخلى عن خوفي وخجلي. شعرت أنني أسوأ من الأعضاء الذكور بسبب المعايير المزدوجة المتعلقة بالنساء في الولايات المتحدة الأمريكية. يمكن للرجال أن "يفرغوا طاقتهم الجنسية باللهو" في حين أن النساء إما عذارى أو عاهرات. زُرِعت هذه الأساطير في ذهني. ساعدني الزمن في البرنامج في التغلب على هذه المفاهيم.

By |2023-04-12T13:53:51-05:00April 10, 2023|Comments Off on لم أستسلم، لقد سلَّمت
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من دست نکشیدم، من تسلیم شدم

من دست نکشیدم، من تسلیم شدم. زمانی سفرم در این برنامه را آغاز کردم که یکی از دوستان الآنان به من گفت یک معتاد جنسی هستم. برای اثبات اشتباه او، موافقت کردم که به شش جلسه SA بروم. در طی آن شش جلسه، آرام آرام پذیرفتم که یک معتاد جنسی هستم. در ابتدا هیچ ارتباط چشمی با سایر اعضا نداشتم و مشارکت نمی کردم. شش زن SA دیگر در اولین جلسه گروه خانگی من بودند. گروه ما هفته ای دو جلسه برگزار میکرد که به من کمک کرد تا با برنامه ارتباط برقرار کنم و بعد شروع به مشارکت کردم. وقتی احساس مشابهت کردم و پذیرفتم که معتادجنسی هستم، مجبور شدم ترس و شرمم را تسلیم کنم. به دلیل استانداردهای دوگانه در مورد زنان در ایالات متحده، احساس می کردم از اعضای مرد بدتر هستم. مردان می توانند "جو وحشی خود را بکارند" در حالی که زنان یا باکره هستند یا فاحشه. این افسانه ها در ذهن من کاشته شده بود. گذر زمان در برنامه به من کمک کرد تا بر این باورها غلبه کنم.

By |2023-04-12T13:20:41-05:00April 9, 2023|Comments Off on من دست نکشیدم، من تسلیم شدم
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