Relapse Prevention

At Last! An End To Chronic Relapsing

The Foreword to the Second Edition of Alcoholics Anonymous says that “Of those who came to A.A. and really tried, 50% got sober at once and remained that way; 25% sobered up after some relapses, and among the remainder, those who stayed on showed improvement” (AA xx).

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Relapse Prevention Plan

At the beginning of Sexaholics Anonymous (15), the narrator says in part: “Then one night out of nowhere a prostitute jumped into my car . . .” (emphasis added). I used to think that my own behaviors occurred “out of nowhere.”

By |2024-12-16T10:41:16-06:00June 1, 2008|Comments Off on Relapse Prevention Plan

How I Stopped Being a Chronic Slipper

I started sex-addiction recovery in 1994 in another sex-addiction fellowship, and spent the next eight years in a state of chronic relapse. Sometimes I couldn’t even get one day of sobriety, although a couple of times I reached six months. But five years ago something changed, and I have been able to stay sober.

By |2024-08-08T14:17:21-05:00December 8, 2007|Comments Off on How I Stopped Being a Chronic Slipper

Half Measures

All my life, all I wanted was to fit in, to be accepted, and to feel okay about myself. I grew up in a family of multiple addictions, and I was a loner. From very early on I hated myself. I felt trapped, always wishing and waiting to grow up so I could do what I wanted to and have the freedom to get away from it all.

By |2024-12-05T12:18:23-06:00June 30, 2004|Comments Off on Half Measures

Relapse

Many people lose their sobriety or relapse back into lust and sexual addiction. Most of us have learned that relapse is a process that happens over a period of time. Slowly we let our priority of sober and lust-free thinking and acting be replaced by other things. Then we become ripe for relapse.

By |2024-12-27T15:08:45-06:00September 26, 2003|Comments Off on Relapse

Slip Sliding Away

This line comes from an old Simon and Garfunkel song and it describes what happens to me whenever I have a slip in the program. Each time I slip, I slide further away from my Higher Power. I do believe it is possible to have a program without slips. That was the theme of the Colorado Evergreen conference this year: “Recovery without Relapse.”

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Don’t Quit!

As I sit here on the New York City subway, I have seven years in the program and one day of sexual sobriety. Triggers of every kind surround me and it seems impossible for me not to lust. Add this all up, and it equals just one thought in my mind — FAILURE!!! And that is exactly what my disease (my addict, the devil, whatever I call it) wants me to believe.

By |2025-01-13T12:34:01-06:00December 7, 2001|Comments Off on Don’t Quit!

When the God-Connection Started to Work

I’m Paul H., a grateful sexaholic, sober since December 1996. The nature of my disease is lusting, wanting to be lusted after, compulsive masturbation, use of pornography, dependency relationships, and anonymous encounters.

By |2025-02-13T14:27:18-06:00June 12, 1998|Comments Off on When the God-Connection Started to Work