SA Stories

Why I Stay Sober

When I first came to SA, I was one of those people who wanted to control and enjoy my lust, but not stop lusting altogether. I wanted to work my own program. I thought I was smarter than the other members and smarter than my therapist.

By |2024-08-05T14:37:30-05:00March 1, 2008|Comments Off on Why I Stay Sober

Single and Happy? You Bet!

When I first came to SA in June 2002, I was miserable and I was single. I didn’t want to be miserable, and I sure didn’t want to be single! My divorce had been finalized just two months before I came to SA, and I was jealous and upset that my newly ex-husband had gotten engaged before the divorce was final.

By |2024-09-09T15:34:30-05:00September 9, 2007|Comments Off on Single and Happy? You Bet!

We Agnostics

Why is Chapter Four of Alcoholics Anonymous (44) entitled “We Agnostics” instead of “Those Agnostics” even though some of us entered the program already believing in God? Today, I believe that I act like an agnostic or atheist whenever I turn away from God.

By |2024-08-09T14:47:24-05:00September 9, 2007|Comments Off on We Agnostics

Sharing Recovery With My Son

After years in a dark place, God has given me the gift of recovery. One of the fruits has been the blossoming of my relationship with my son. It has been my privilege to be with him in his recovery.

By |2024-08-11T02:29:52-05:00June 11, 2007|Comments Off on Sharing Recovery With My Son

My Experience with Sober Dating

I have been an SA member for 14 years. I came to my local area SA in its infancy. I have served in Intergroup, and, with the help of some dedicated members, helped to start three groups in my area.

By |2024-08-11T02:29:47-05:00June 11, 2007|Comments Off on My Experience with Sober Dating

Keep Coming Back

I came into SA hoping it would save my marriage. I thought it was going well, but my wife said she needed some space, that my just being in the house was a constant reminder, and that our children didn’t see that I was having any consequences for my misbehavior.

By |2025-03-20T10:42:05-05:00June 9, 2007|Comments Off on Keep Coming Back

Three Steps to Surrender: From Excommunication to Reconciliation

I have always been active in my chosen religion since my baptism at the age of 18, even though I was an active sexaholic of varying degrees before and throughout my 35-plus years of church membership. For a while I even served as a bishop, an unpaid clergyman equivalent to a pastor in other churches. All that changed a little over 27 months ago, when I was excommunicated from the church as a result of my addiction.

By |2024-08-11T02:27:38-05:00June 9, 2007|Comments Off on Three Steps to Surrender: From Excommunication to Reconciliation

A Home for My Spirit

How did I—a nice, self-respecting recovering alcoholic with more than 14 years of sobriety—find myself sitting in a meeting with a bunch of lowly sexaholics? After all, I had worked the Steps many times. I sponsored several men. I had never lied to my AA sponsors.

By |2024-08-26T14:57:21-05:00March 24, 2007|Comments Off on A Home for My Spirit

The Face, Hands, Voice of God

I attended family counseling for six years; my wife was crazy and she wasn’t getting any better. Did it have anything to do with the fact that I was having several simultaneous affairs? I was a respected professional in a small town. Some of the women were my clients. This was in violation of the ethics of my profession and whatever ethics I might have thought I had for my marriage.

By |2024-09-17T13:44:00-05:00December 11, 2006|Comments Off on The Face, Hands, Voice of God

Making Amends

I have amends to make to some people. A few years ago, I abused four women, and I hurt two others for terribly selfish reasons. The four women were prostitutes. They were working in that abusive industry here in my own locality. Two were on the street, one was listed in the classified ads, and one worked in a “studio,” a sanitized name for a brothel.

By |2024-09-17T14:05:16-05:00September 12, 2006|Comments Off on Making Amends