I’m a newcomer to SA. I attended my first meeting on June 20, 2007, in Yonkers, Pennsylvania. The fellowship has been an enlightening experience so far, and I look forward to more growth and understanding.

I’ve had a difficult time surrendering lust. When I catch a glimpse of a lust object, I try to avert my eyes and turn my head, but I am still new to this, and it does not always work. The SA literature suggests I say a prayer for the object of my lust, hoping, I believe, that I would not lust after someone for whom I am praying, but that has not worked very well for me, at least not yet.

The other day I was listening to a CD about surrendering judgment, and one of the members shared that we already have a tool to help in surrendering judgment, and that is our sense of humor.

I applied this to one of my lust objects, inadvertently at first. Staring at her, I thought, “That person wants me!” That is one of my delusions as a sexaholic—that the women I see are as interested in me as I am in them. But this time, I went one step further. I said aloud to myself, “That person wants to have sex with me!”

Hearing myself say that brought home the incredible absurdity of it all. I could not help but laugh out loud. The laughter replaced the lust.

I do not know how others will view this notion, but this is what is working for me today, as I am still on Step Zero.