D.B. of Richmond, Virginia writes, “There have been many changes in my life as a result of SA. First and foremost, has been my admission and acceptance that I am an alcoholic. After admitting I was a sexaholic, I still had a deep pit in my gut that I was still not being honest with myself. This pit feeling gave me difficulties with the SA program and I was still having the compulsion to act out. While I have not acted out since July 9, my mind was going crazy with lustful thoughts. I was not sexually sober and I just couldn’t get a grip on serenity and peace of mind even though I was praying constantly.

“Finally my sponsor asked me if I was an alcoholic to which I replied, ‘I don’t know.’ He suggested I take a look at my drinking, which when I did, I could see how much my drinking and sexaholism were so interwoven. I was in such denial but with the grace of God, I was able to admit I was an alcoholic on Sept. 9 and a great burden was lifted from me. Almost at once, I had a tremendous feeling of freedom and the compulsion to act out sexually was lifted. I still have fleeting moments of lustful thoughts but today, I quickly turn them over to God and they are forgotten. I have a long way to go in both programs but today I have a lot of hope, love and God in my life and feel good about me.

“H.B., D.G. and myself have continued to meet on a regular basis. We all agree on the definition of sobriety as outlined on page 120 of the SA ‘Big Book’ and are working towards opening the meeting to newcomers after they have been screened. In fact, my ex-counselor called to ask if I would talk to someone who he thought might be a candidate, but I haven’t heard from him yet.”