Sharing the wisdom of David M. to help us let go, grow, and remember. 

Maynardism: The opposite of love is indifference. When one is angry or critical of another, that is not indifference. That is an expression of caring. Learning to accept caring in the form of judgment is important, though rarely pleasant.

The Layers: Toward the outside is anger; under that is fear; under that is sadness in the inner core. If we touch the sadness, we need not dwell in the anger or fear. Acknowledging sadness removes the need for anger or fear and saves a lot of time and hurt feelings.

Maynardism: In a conflict, content is never the issue. Never. Healthy progress in resolving an issue will only occur when the issue is addressed rather than the content.

Maynardism: Having opinions (about anything at all!) is always optional. Most problems in relationships are caused by opinions.

Maynardism: We can refuse to fight. “You may be right,” or “thank you for caring so much” – without sarcasm! – must be used to refuse to fight. They should be used regardless of the possible derision from the other party.

Magic sentence: “God, I surrender my right to be aroused or sexually responsive in any way.”

David M: There is nothing you can do to make your Higher Power love you more, and there is nothing you can do to make your Higher Power love you less.

Other sayings:

“Hurt people hurt people.”

Q-tip: “Quit taking it personally.”