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Working Step 10 to Make Positive Connections

Recently, I have been attending meetings where the readings were taken from our Recovery Continues book. In one meeting, we read: “Lust is a function of my ego, just as resentment is. I, the lord of my life—lord over that lust object and over that resentment object—unleash a spiritual force against them both, against their wills, perverting the reality of their person to suit my twisted need. What is that negative connection? Why must I keep on making it? So I won’t have to look at myself.” (RC 43)

By Anonymous, USA|2025-09-22T02:00:05-05:00February 26, 2021|Comments Off

Writing Amends Letters To Anonymous People

I have been struggling with my 9th Step for almost a year now due to Covid and all that not being able to travel freely. But in the past two months at the encouragement of my sponsor I have discovered writing letters like this and have found much freedom in them:

By Peter G., Ontario, Canada|2025-09-22T02:00:13-05:00February 26, 2021|Comments Off

Being Blessed With The Gift of Sobriety and Longevity

Thank you for your time, Art. Could we start by asking how old you were when you joined SA and the length of your sobriety? I was 44. I’m 80 now, with 35 years of sobriety. When asked how does one stay sober for 35 years, I say: “One day at a time, keep surrendering lust, and one day at a time, don’t die!” I’ve been blessed with the gift of sobriety and with longevity.

By Art B., Georgia, USA|2025-09-22T02:00:22-05:00February 26, 2021|Comments Off

SA Sobriety Grows in Kenya

I grew up in a dysfunctional home with all types of abuse. My father was a workaholic and my mother was codependent. At the age of 4 or 5 I was subjected to sexual abuse by a female member of my household. The abuse continued for some years and totally altered my life. Something inside me closed up and I knew instinctively that this had to stay a secret.

By Mathew M., Nairobi, Kenya|2025-09-22T02:00:38-05:00February 26, 2021|Comments Off

I Saw The Drawing Slowly Appear On The Page
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I Saw The Drawing Slowly Appear On The Page

I Saw The Drawing Slowly Appear On The Page

I had a pretty normal childhood and, thankfully, I experienced no sexual traumas. Looking back, I notice that I had an unusually strong interest in women, even as a child. Still, I don’t believe I experienced genuine addiction until decades later.

By John I., TN, USA|2025-09-22T02:21:14-05:00February 26, 2021|Comments Off

Staying Sober in My Twenties Has Its Own Challenges
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Staying Sober in My Twenties Has Its Own Challenges

Staying Sober in My Twenties Has Its Own Challenges

I was born in 1989 in Kurdistan, Iran, in a family with 3 older brothers and no sisters. The concept of women and girls was always a mystery to me. The only female that I had a real connection with was my mother. That was not my only challenge though.

By Farzad P., Athens, Greece|2025-09-22T03:00:32-05:00February 26, 2021|Comments Off

I Had the “Textbook,” but in SA I Found the “Workbook”

I am grateful for being a sexaholic and not being alone having this disease. A priest told me about SA when I was 26, I googled and read some member story’s and thought it was not so bad in my life. “I only had a problem with porno and masturbation. I didn’t cheat on my wife, I didn’t have sex with a prostitute, I didn’t have sex outside my marriage, ... After all, it was not so bad.” I thought I still could manage it on my own.

By Fries M., Wevelgem, Belgium|2025-09-22T02:00:54-05:00February 25, 2021|Comments Off

The Root Was Lust

Throughout my adolescence I was progressively consumed by same-sex behaviors and fantasies. I thought that the problem was being attracted to men. Acting out for 17 years shaped my whole thinking. “I was restless, irritable and discontented.” SA told me that actually the root was lust, and this was music to my ears. I began to detach from lust one day at a time and stopped carrying around my wound as a trophy.

By Matteo P., Italy|2025-09-22T02:00:58-05:00February 25, 2021|Comments Off

Unlike The Older Members, I Was Brought Up With The Internet
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Unlike The Older Members, I Was Brought Up With The Internet

Unlike The Older Members, I Was Brought Up With The Internet

I had just turned 21 when I entered the SA fellowship. I immediately knew SA was the program for me but I didn’t feel comfortable in the local fellowship since everyone else was at least twice my age.

By Ferro B., Purmerend, The Netherlands|2025-09-22T03:01:22-05:00February 25, 2021|Comments Off

Fully Accepting SA When Young Was God’s Gift
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Fully Accepting SA When Young Was God’s Gift

Fully Accepting SA When Young Was God’s Gift

I found SA shortly after I turned 28 years old. I heard an old-timer once on a tape say that he didn’t know why anyone under 30 would come to SA—they still had decades of good lusting left!

By Anonymous|2025-09-22T02:23:41-05:00February 25, 2021|Comments Off

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I Saw The Drawing Slowly Appear On The Page

Staying Sober in My Twenties Has Its Own Challenges

Unlike The Older Members, I Was Brought Up With The Internet

Fully Accepting SA When Young Was God’s Gift

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