Lavorare i Passi sulla paura le ha permesso di agire sotto la guida di Dio. Sono sposata da quasi 50 anni. Mio marito è stato incredibilmente crudele, ma ho sempre avuto paura di andarmene. La mia più grande paura è stata quella di non essere in grado di mantenermi, di rimanere senza casa.
I Passi hanno eliminato la vergogna e il perfezionismo, una combinazione letale che le impediva di mostrarsi vulnerabile.
Die Arbeit in den Schritten bezogen auf die Angst ermöglichte es ihr, unter Gottes Führung zu handeln. Ich bin seit fast 50 Jahren verheiratet. Mein Mann war unglaublich grausam, aber ich hatte Angst, ihn zu verlassen. Meine größte Furcht war, dass ich mich nicht selbst versorgen könnte, dass ich obdachlos würde.
Die Schritte befreiten sie von Scham und Perfektionismus, einer tödlichen Kombination, die sie daran hinderte, offen und verletzlich zu sein. Wenn ich Scham empfinde, fühle ich mich verletzlich. Die Definition von Verletzlichkeit lautet: „Die Unfähigkeit, sich vor Verletzungen, Angriffen oder Spott zu schützen.“ Das Wörterbuch gibt außerdem an: „Eine Person, die besondere Fürsorge, Unterstützung oder Schutz benötigt.“
Travailler les étapes sur la peur lui a permis d'agir sous la direction de Dieu. Je suis mariée depuis près de 50 ans. Mon mari a été incroyablement cruel, mais j'avais peur de le quitter. Ma plus grande crainte était de ne pas pouvoir subvenir à mes besoins, de me retrouver sans domicile.
Les Étapes ont éliminé la honte et le perfectionnisme, une combinaison mortelle qui l'empêchait d'être vulnérable.
SA helped her see more clearly how she was holding herself back from healing fully. I haven’t taken much time as of late to consider the role that trauma plays in my consistent relapses. I was abused sexually by my father at 13, and I had sexually abusive relationships from ages 19-22. I entered SA in July of 2021 without realizing my last relationship had ended with me being sexually assaulted. The brain is a funny organ like that.
She found the freedom to choose in sobriety. Sobriety is a gift that your wise decisions give you. Sobriety is not limited to stopping sexual relations with another person or with yourself—that is only the beginning. Sobriety is having sanity in the face of life. It is exercising the self-control that already resides within you, that was given to you by your Higher Power to choose between what is good for you and what harms you.
Working the Steps on fear allowed her to take action under God’s guidance. I’ve been married for almost 50 years. My husband has been unbelievably cruel, but I’ve been afraid to leave. My biggest fear has been that I wouldn’t be able to support myself, that I’d be homeless.
The Steps removed shame and perfectionism, a deadly combination that blocked her from being vulnerable.
