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The Practical Tool of Maintaining Physical Boundaries

I found out when I started to sober up and get into recovery that part of not lusting required keeping physical boundaries. In my active addiction, I did not pay attention to this and had no idea that there are healthy boundaries. For me, this means no intimate hugging with men and women and making sure I have enough space around me to stand or sit.

By |2024-08-23T14:31:07-05:00August 18, 2021|Comments Off on The Practical Tool of Maintaining Physical Boundaries

There Is Value in Co-ed As Well As Women-only SA Meetings

When I entered the room of my first SA meeting in September 2018, I was the only female. I sat down at a table with five men of varying ages and I felt very alone and fearful. What would these men think of me? It wasn’t until the meeting progressed and these men around me started sharing their thoughts and feelings about working their SA program that I began a slow journey towards being able to view men as people rather than as objects.

By |2024-08-23T14:45:57-05:00May 22, 2021|Comments Off on There Is Value in Co-ed As Well As Women-only SA Meetings

The Chicago Experience of Building a Culture of Sobriety

Hi Mike, thanks for your time today in sharing your experience, strength and hope. Could we begin by asking your sobriety date and home group? Yes, June 3, 1984 and the Holy Innocents group in Chicago. For a long time previously it was at St. Teresa. We have been on Zoom for about a year now; when we were face to face, attendance was around 55-60 and we meet for 90 minutes.

By |2025-08-06T12:23:18-05:00May 22, 2021|Comments Off on The Chicago Experience of Building a Culture of Sobriety

VOIP Meetings as a Loner in Northern Africa

When I hit my bottom on April 16, 2014, I didn’t know if my wife would stay with me after I disclosed to her my double life between my family and my secret lust garden. I was not only mentally and spiritually sick but also physically ill because of acting-in. I suffered from terrible pain.

By |2023-09-22T14:41:43-05:00May 22, 2021|Comments Off on VOIP Meetings as a Loner in Northern Africa

Tough Love Changing Lives

I came into SA in 1987 in Los Angeles. I attended meetings, went to international conferences, had three sponsors in succession, made as many as four phone calls every day and followed directions from those three sponsors. I was never sober for the first six years.

By |2025-08-06T12:24:38-05:00May 20, 2021|Comments Off on Tough Love Changing Lives

Believe the Lies or Adopt the Slogans

Can I differentiate the true from the false? In my disease, I never thought about that question prior to recovery. It simply did not matter. I am a pleasure seeker. What makes me happy or comfortable was what was important. In recovery, I have the opportunity to examine my beliefs and ask the God of my understanding to help me see the truth.

By |2024-09-19T11:49:28-05:00May 20, 2021|Comments Off on Believe the Lies or Adopt the Slogans

SA Sobriety Grows in Kenya

I grew up in a dysfunctional home with all types of abuse. My father was a workaholic and my mother was codependent. At the age of 4 or 5 I was subjected to sexual abuse by a female member of my household. The abuse continued for some years and totally altered my life. Something inside me closed up and I knew instinctively that this had to stay a secret.

By |2023-10-26T13:31:12-05:00February 26, 2021|Comments Off on SA Sobriety Grows in Kenya

I Had the “Textbook,” but in SA I Found the “Workbook”

I am grateful for being a sexaholic and not being alone having this disease. A priest told me about SA when I was 26, I googled and read some member story’s and thought it was not so bad in my life. “I only had a problem with porno and masturbation. I didn’t cheat on my wife, I didn’t have sex with a prostitute, I didn’t have sex outside my marriage, ... After all, it was not so bad.” I thought I still could manage it on my own.

By |2023-10-25T14:14:32-05:00February 25, 2021|Comments Off on I Had the “Textbook,” but in SA I Found the “Workbook”