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Checking In on a Daily Basis: The Solution at Work

In Madrid we are trying to live in the solution and not in the problem. Before the regular one-hour Sunday meeting where we read and comment on a piece of official SA literature “to relate our sharing to some aspect of what we have read,” we are having on a trial basis a half-hour Tradition meeting. We’ve already been through several items of Discovering the Principles and are going to start to read Guidelines for Group Recovery, which has just been translated into Spanish.

By J.M., Spain|2025-03-13T17:33:39-05:00September 13, 1996|Comments Off

One Man’s Formula for Amending Emotional Abuse Toward His Wife

In clearing away the wreckage of the past in my 15-year marriage, I am successfully using the following format when making amends:

By Alex L.|2025-03-13T17:35:47-05:00March 13, 1996|Comments Off

Group News

These 12 suggestions were beneficial and very useful to me and our fellowship. I believe they have helped us to stay focused and committed to working the solution, like the first 100 members of AA did. I thought the fellowship might find it of interest.

By Meir|2025-04-02T12:39:42-05:00September 25, 1994|Comments Off

Abstinence in Marriage — Its Value and a Plan of Action

Value of Abstinence to the Sexaholic 1. To discover lust and its part in the relationship and to decouple lust from sex. Going into total sexual abstinence reveals the presence and nature of lust. Before, sex and lust were so intertwined we couldn’t see anything but the sex. Taking sex out of the picture reveals what’s really there. And it is this hidden component that must be seen and progressively overcome for true recovery.

By Anonymous|2025-04-02T13:03:14-05:00June 25, 1994|Comments Off

Desire for Sobriety—Daily Renewal with Sobriety Partners

[One SA group’s guidelines for staying sober today; submitted at the January 1994 Rochester conference.]

By Omaha, Nebraska|2025-04-02T11:46:56-05:00March 26, 1994|Comments Off

The “A Team” Concept

The A Team concept is an idea we have put to use a few times to help some fellow suffering sexaholics. Until now each case has involved someone struggling to get started with sobriety, but it could conceivably be used for other purposes, such as a crisis in someone’s life. It is really a simple application of Step Twelve in which we join forces with others to help the sexaholic who still suffers.

By L.B.|2025-04-03T18:30:32-05:00December 3, 1992|Comments Off

Prayers

Among many other gifts, SA hands me the most wonderful toolkit to use in recovery. The essential tools are meetings and telephone calls, working the Steps and Traditions, and contact with God as I understand Him. A daily contract for sobriety and a gratitude list are two other important tools. I generally use them only once a day. There is one tool, however, which I estimate I use 20 to 30 times every day and night. That is prayer.

By Anonymous|2025-06-12T14:06:42-05:00June 3, 1992|Comments Off

Gratitude Lists

My recovery calendar page today says “Gratitude turns problems into blessings and the unexpected into gifts.” I am grateful for the reminder of how important gratitude lists have been to my recovery from sexaholism. During the first several months of sobriety, I wrote gratitude lists daily. My sponsor said to put 20 items on it per day.

By Anonymous|2025-04-03T18:34:29-05:00March 3, 1992|Comments Off

A Contract For Sobriety

Shortly after I entered SA in August 1988, some fellow sexaholics mentioned making a “daily contract” for sobriety. During the first few weeks of sobriety, I hardly needed a contract. I was so scared and miserable that sobriety was my only option. My second marriage was near an end, my acting out would cause me to quickly lose my job and I simply felt hopeless.

By Anonymous|2025-06-11T12:21:13-05:00December 27, 1991|Comments Off

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