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Abstaining from Media: Back to the Present

I have been working a program with a few other members of SA from different parts of the country on abstinence from TV and movies. I have been abstinent from these media since June 1, 1996. This has not been an easy surrender. Even though God has removed what was an overwhelming compulsion to utilize these media, I still experience an intense pull from them. When the lust for TV or movies comes up, I am able to pray each time — just as I do with sexual lust — and God has, one impulse at a time, given me the willingness to turn away.

By S.W.|2025-03-17T11:13:50-05:00December 13, 1996|Comments Off

How I Deal with Romantic Lust

When I first got sober I made a firm commitment not to date for at least a year. Every day I had lived expecting the woman of my dreams to show up and magically change my reality. Once I found her I would no longer suffer from inadequacy, pain or loneliness. The world I hated so much would turn into a paradise. Everything would be different from then on.

By J.R.|2025-03-17T11:10:22-05:00December 13, 1996|Comments Off

Checking In on a Daily Basis: The Solution at Work

In Madrid we are trying to live in the solution and not in the problem. Before the regular one-hour Sunday meeting where we read and comment on a piece of official SA literature “to relate our sharing to some aspect of what we have read,” we are having on a trial basis a half-hour Tradition meeting. We’ve already been through several items of Discovering the Principles and are going to start to read Guidelines for Group Recovery, which has just been translated into Spanish.

By J.M., Spain|2025-03-13T17:33:39-05:00September 13, 1996|Comments Off

One Man’s Formula for Amending Emotional Abuse Toward His Wife

In clearing away the wreckage of the past in my 15-year marriage, I am successfully using the following format when making amends:

By Alex L.|2025-03-13T17:35:47-05:00March 13, 1996|Comments Off

Group News

These 12 suggestions were beneficial and very useful to me and our fellowship. I believe they have helped us to stay focused and committed to working the solution, like the first 100 members of AA did. I thought the fellowship might find it of interest.

By Meir|2025-04-02T12:39:42-05:00September 25, 1994|Comments Off

Abstinence in Marriage — Its Value and a Plan of Action

Value of Abstinence to the Sexaholic 1. To discover lust and its part in the relationship and to decouple lust from sex. Going into total sexual abstinence reveals the presence and nature of lust. Before, sex and lust were so intertwined we couldn’t see anything but the sex. Taking sex out of the picture reveals what’s really there. And it is this hidden component that must be seen and progressively overcome for true recovery.

By Anonymous|2025-04-02T13:03:14-05:00June 25, 1994|Comments Off

Desire for Sobriety—Daily Renewal with Sobriety Partners

[One SA group’s guidelines for staying sober today; submitted at the January 1994 Rochester conference.]

By Omaha, Nebraska|2025-04-02T11:46:56-05:00March 26, 1994|Comments Off

The “A Team” Concept

The A Team concept is an idea we have put to use a few times to help some fellow suffering sexaholics. Until now each case has involved someone struggling to get started with sobriety, but it could conceivably be used for other purposes, such as a crisis in someone’s life. It is really a simple application of Step Twelve in which we join forces with others to help the sexaholic who still suffers.

By L.B.|2025-04-03T18:30:32-05:00December 3, 1992|Comments Off

Prayers

Among many other gifts, SA hands me the most wonderful toolkit to use in recovery. The essential tools are meetings and telephone calls, working the Steps and Traditions, and contact with God as I understand Him. A daily contract for sobriety and a gratitude list are two other important tools. I generally use them only once a day. There is one tool, however, which I estimate I use 20 to 30 times every day and night. That is prayer.

By Anonymous|2025-06-12T14:06:42-05:00June 3, 1992|Comments Off

Gratitude Lists

My recovery calendar page today says “Gratitude turns problems into blessings and the unexpected into gifts.” I am grateful for the reminder of how important gratitude lists have been to my recovery from sexaholism. During the first several months of sobriety, I wrote gratitude lists daily. My sponsor said to put 20 items on it per day.

By Anonymous|2025-04-03T18:34:29-05:00March 3, 1992|Comments Off

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