Il a continué à rechuter jusqu’à ce qu’il change ce qu’il recherchait.
Je suis un dépendant extrême. J’ai été dans la dépendance active pendant près de quarante ans. J’ai finalement été entraîné dans le Programme il y a quatorze ans. Aujourd’hui, je suis sobre depuis deux ans et trois mois. Faites le calcul.

Nous étions en réunion, animée par un membre local. Pendant un moment de silence, nous avons entendu un craquement. Nous ne savions pas d’où venait ce bruit. Un autre craquement a suivi, puis un autre.

L’abandon à Dieu m’a conduit au miracle de la vraie sobriété.
Bonjour, je m’appelle Amr R. et je viens d’Égypte. À l’âge de 10 ans, j’ai commencé à me toucher, mais j’ai arrêté parce que ma mère m’a dit que j’irais en enfer si je faisais cela. J’ai découvert la pornographie à l’âge de 18 ans et je suis rapidement devenu dépendant, incapable d’arrêter de me masturber ne serait-ce qu’une semaine. J’ai rejoint les SA à l’âge de 19 ans, il y a seulement un an. Ma première réunion s’est déroulée sur Zoom. J’ai rejoint les SA parce que je me masturbais compulsivement en regardant de la pornographie. Lorsque je suis arrivé aux SA, j’ai pu arrêter de passer à l’acte pendant 14 jours grâce aux gens ici – ils m’encourageaient, m’affirmaient et m’aimaient !

La luxure a toujours fait partie de moi, bien avant que je ne connaisse son nom. Elle m’avait revendiquée comme l’une des siennes dans les ténèbres qui allaient devenir mon sexolisme, une prison de la taille de l’univers que j’avais moi-même créée. Ma maladie a été discrètement progressive. Certains diront que je n’ai pas touché le fond puisque ma vie n’a jamais été complètement bouleversée par mes nombreuses rechutes.

A Step Toward Healing at the Bogotá Conference
On December 14–15, 2024, Bogotá, Colombia hosted SA members under the inspiring slogan: “Recovering Together, Men and Women in SA.” The event brought together 39 participants—31 men and 8 women—united in their journey of recovery.

A Fun Take on the Business of Local Meetings
If you’ve attended any business meetings at your local home group, you know they can be pretty dull and uninteresting as a few restless addicts monotonously dot all the I’s, cross all the T’s, and measure out the red tape. Sometimes, this can be downright annoying and frustrating as members debate unimportant nuances of every motion or haggle over whether a surplus of $9 should be spent on tea or cookies.

How lightheartedness and a little perspective can turn self-pity into self-awareness.
A few days ago, one of my friends came up to me with good news. “I have a boyfriend!” she said. I was so happy for her. Then it struck me—I was (and still am) the only single girl among my various groups of friends.

Hi, I’m Eugene K., a sexaholic. I’m 22 years old and came to SA in September 2024. When I saw the theme about Rule 62 (don’t take yourself too seriously), it reminded me of how I found my SA sponsor. Back when I was new, I had my eye on this one guy I thought would be a great sponsor. He’d been in the newcomers’ breakout meeting, and I thought, “This is the guy.” A few meetings later, I finally decided I should probably get a sponsor, so I started looking for him after the meeting.

Seeing My Part Without Taking Blame
Step Four was eye-opening for me. It was also hard to look at, written on paper, what I had done and who I was. I just didn’t want to be that person anymore.

Overcoming Addiction and Betrayal to Rebuild Love, Trust, and Purpose.
When I attended my first SA meeting in May 2021, I was totally immersed in lust and had already lost almost everything.

Higher Power’s guidance in both struggle and service.
Step into Action (p. 67) tells us that “There are many good ways to do a Fourth Step inventory.” It recommends listing and describing our resentments, fears, and the selfish nature of our sexual behavior, but it also mentions identifying our positive attributes and recognizing what “God would have us be.” This can also be found in our personal history of other, more positive, behaviors—especially in actions that stand in direct contrast to our defects, like opposite ends of a pendulum’s swing.

How the Steps, Higher Power, and the Fellowship helped this member find his path to recovery, one day at a time.
Tonight, a tragic plane crash dominates every news network. The world is in shock. Why? Because plane crashes are rare—they don’t happen often, so when they do, it’s overwhelming.

Finding Strength in Higher Power and Self-Discovery
My name is Aaron M., and I’m a lust addict. One of the biggest parts of self-discovery in my recovery is the vast gulf that exists between who I am when I’m practicing sobriety and who I am when I’m in active addiction. They’re almost (but not quite!) two different people, with their own personalities and motivations. My sober self goes completely out the window whenever I take that first lust drink and the “other guy” kicks in.

Making recovery artwork helps my own recovery.
This piece represents the journey of recovery as described in the Big Book. The figure in the center symbolizes a recovered individual with his own unique light and color. As each recovered member crosses through the gate of freedom, he carries his own colorful light, contributing to the collective glow of our souls.

Even when cut off from the world, you’re never cut off from recovery.
A few years ago, I wrote an article about my experience sponsoring incarcerated fellows by mail. How different it is now to be one of them! As if I needed further proof that I’m just another “bozo on the bus”!

How a sponsor changed my life
All my life I went to church, served others, and believed in a higher power. I am married with seven children. However, I lived a secret life of pornography addiction for 27 years. I had a lot of trauma I did not know how to deal with after being abused as a child several times by four different men while growing up. My pornography use eventually led to a crime that put me in prison for four years.

Enjoy this April 2025 edition of the ESSAY and take a load off of yourself. Yes, you’re still responsible for clearing away the wreckage of your past, but remind yourself that although Higher Power still lets you struggle in your character defects so you can grow and progress, you’re not responsible for removing them. That’s God’s job! Surrender it all to Him.

Dear ESSAY,

Thank you again for the contributions of this magazine to our fellowship. It is very important! So many of our members look forward to the next issue.
During the months that I spend in West Africa every year in fellowship with SA members, we download and distribute the current issue of the ESSAY. We don’t have many hard copies of the White Book since the international mail and local m

True surrender isn’t just asking for help—it’s offering ourselves to God’s plan.

In the Program, I’ve been building the muscle of asking God for help. “Help me be sober! Help me turn away from lust! Help me surrender! Help me! Help me! Help me!” As I strengthen this muscle—which sometimes requires an act of complete reliance—I’m also shifting my perspective to a gentler way.

Courage isn’t fighting lust—it’s surrendering it to God.
My name is Steve, and I’m a recovering sexaholic. By God’s grace, sponsorship, and the Program, I’ve been sober since August 20, 2013. I haven’t had sex with myself or with anyone other than my spouse for over 11 years. I’ve also experienced some progressive victory over lust.