SA Stories

A Voicemail from Heaven

For years I had not set up a voicemail on my phone. It just did not seem worth the time or energy. Out of a sense of ignorance, I was not thinking of anyone else’s convenience. I suppose I figured I wasn’t worth leaving a voicemail for anyway. However, at the urging of my sponsor I went ahead and activated my voicemail.

By |2024-05-03T15:32:27-05:00May 15, 2020|Comments Off on A Voicemail from Heaven

First Light

Whenever I get into negative or obsessive thinking, I try to remember the great promise of recovery from sex and lust addiction as I first experienced it. We all remember where we were and what we were doing when first we learned of something that would forever change our lives, especially something that promised us freedom from a hopeless state of mind and body.

By |2025-05-09T16:35:53-05:00May 15, 2020|Comments Off on First Light

Self-Reliance Failed Me

Recently I faced the most severe challenge I’ve had in 18 months of sobriety. An explicit image and message appeared on my phone out of the blue one day when I was in a meeting at work. Like a deer in headlights, I was struggling to know what to do next. I thought it might be someone I had acted out with in the past.

By |2024-05-03T15:32:16-05:00May 15, 2020|Comments Off on Self-Reliance Failed Me

How Sexaholics Anonymous Helped Me To ‘Remarry’ My Wife

One gift of SA has been the recovery in my marriage. I have no right to a happy and fulfilling marriage. I am certainly not worthy of this, but I have an amazing Higher Power who loves me no matter what—and for some reason, He seems to get a kick out of loving me through others, including my wife. Imagine that!

By |2024-08-25T13:52:14-05:00February 20, 2020|Comments Off on How Sexaholics Anonymous Helped Me To ‘Remarry’ My Wife

Retirement Plan

A couple of months ago, I retired. Finally I came down to the last couple of days and it was time to say goodbyes, which would include some affectionate goodbyes. That was good and bad, because ¾ of my co-workers were women. I was looking forward to some hugs and not entirely in a healthy way.

By |2024-03-27T13:15:19-05:00February 20, 2020|Comments Off on Retirement Plan

Whew, I Made It!

This is my second trip to an out-of-town city for a two day work trip. The first trip I met with the new group I am working with. We spent two long days in tough preparation for our business that concludes today. There was a lot of hard work, and laughing, and getting to know each other.

By |2024-03-27T13:15:24-05:00February 20, 2020|Comments Off on Whew, I Made It!

No Mistakes

“Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake” (AA 417). I am reminded of this again today. I don’t go to church. I avoid religious people and situations like the plague. I believe in a Higher Power and I am still learning who He is. However, I still really struggle with my old concepts and beliefs.

By |2024-03-27T13:15:28-05:00February 20, 2020|Comments Off on No Mistakes

Isolation In Subtle Forms

Isolation has always been a danger for me as a sexaholic. Before coming to SA, I lived my life in a bubble, withdrawn from others, cut off from any type of Higher Power, out of touch with reality, lost in my world of illusions. I was uncomfortable dealing with reality, and preferred the comfort of isolation, in which I could bask in lust and let my ego reign in all its glory.

By |2024-03-27T13:15:33-05:00February 20, 2020|Comments Off on Isolation In Subtle Forms

Drunk on Rage

The other morning I was going out for a run. A neighborhood next to ours has a hill coming down to a stop sign. I have run past this entrance several times and noticed that people tend to drive down the hill at a high rate of speed. This leads them to roll through the stop sign without stopping.

By |2024-05-03T15:01:16-05:00December 22, 2019|Comments Off on Drunk on Rage

Gravitation Towards God

I’m listening to a podcast with one former Heavyweight boxing champion, and a new Heavyweight champion. The two boxers are talking about how the younger man’s life has changed since becoming the new champion. Several things are discussed like the money, proving doubters wrong, all the work they both put in to achieve that title, and, of course, the excitement of the fans!

By |2024-05-03T15:01:10-05:00December 22, 2019|Comments Off on Gravitation Towards God