Er erlebte eine Transformation durch AS, die ihm hilft, seine wahre Identität zu erkennen.
Das Problem ist nicht das Problem
Als ich 1999 wegen persönlicher, familiärer und zwischenmenschlicher Krisen zu AS kam, waren meine Gefühle völlig durcheinander. Eigentlich hatte ich keine Gefühle außer Wut. Ich wusste ganz genau, was zu tun war und wie ich schnell alle Probleme in meinem Leben lösen konnte, um schnell wieder zu „normal“ zurückzukehren und das Spiel der glücklichen Familie zu spielen.

Die Schritte befreiten sie von Scham und Perfektionismus, einer tödlichen Kombination, die sie daran hinderte, offen und verletzlich zu sein.
Wenn ich Scham empfinde, fühle ich mich verletzlich. Die Definition von Verletzlichkeit lautet: „Die Unfähigkeit, sich vor Verletzungen, Angriffen oder Spott zu schützen.“ Das Wörterbuch gibt außerdem an: „Eine Person, die besondere Fürsorge, Unterstützung oder Schutz benötigt.“

Das Erkennen des Problems und das Hinaustreten aus dem Selbst erlaubt ihm, im Vertrauen und im Willen Gottes zu leben.
Ich möchte diese Begriffe definieren, weil ich glaube, dass wir, wenn wir ein Problem genau definieren, auch die Lösung finden.

Dieu a chassé sa peur et l’a remplacée par la foi accompagnée d’action.

Toute ma vie, j’ai été tellement prisonnier de la peur que j’avais perdu tout espoir de liberté. En travaillant les Étapes, une lumière brillante au bout d’un long tunnel froid et sombre a soudainement brillé d’une chaleur réconfortante. À chaque étape, cependant, les peurs continuaient de planer. Le simple outil qu’est l’inventaire « De la peur à la foi » m’a aidé à me tourner à nouveau vers Dieu et vers la solution des étapes deux et trois.

SA l’a aidé à rester sobre tandis que la thérapie l’a aidé à guérir de son traumatisme et de sa honte.
Ma femme a découvert ma dépendance pour la première fois avant notre mariage. Je lui ai promis que si elle me donnait une autre chance, je passerais le reste de ma vie à me racheter auprès d’elle. Cela s’est avéré être un mensonge.

Travailler les étapes sur la peur lui a permis d’agir sous la direction de Dieu.
Je suis mariée depuis près de 50 ans. Mon mari a été incroyablement cruel, mais j’avais peur de le quitter. Ma plus grande crainte était de ne pas pouvoir subvenir à mes besoins, de me retrouver sans domicile.

Il a vécu une transformation grâce à SA qui l’aide à voir sa véritable identité.
Le problème n’est pas le problème !
Lorsque je suis arrivé à SA en 1999 en raison de crises personnelles, familiales et relationnelles, mes sentiments étaient très confus. Je n’avais vraiment aucun sentiment, sauf de la colère. Je savais exactement quoi faire et comment résoudre rapidement tous les problèmes de ma vie et revenir rapidement à la « normale », en jouant le jeu de la famille heureuse.

Les Étapes ont éliminé la honte et le perfectionnisme, une combinaison mortelle qui l’empêchait d’être vulnérable.

Identifier le problème et cesser son comportement égocentrique lui permet de vivre dans la confiance et dans la volonté de Dieu.

Congratulations to Gary L. for winning the Best Caption Contest with his caption, “Coming out from the shell is hard for me too.” He will receive a free copy of the October edition in the mail. Also, congratulations to Gene T.

A license plate reminds him that recovery is one day at a time.
One day in the spring of 2024, I had an appointment with my eye doctor in Oshawa, Ontario (Canada). Parked right outside the office building was this motorcycle. I stood stock still for a moment, looking at the license plate—ODAAT—and the yellow bumper sticker above it—ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Fusagasugá witnessed the 13th National Convention of SA Colombia. It was a meeting of souls, where hope blossomed, and unity became real.
There, I discovered that there are no broken people—only valuable human beings fighting against this painful disease. I felt the presence of our Higher Power everywhere. Every day, I fall more in love with SA.

Taking a look at himself and sharing what he found let the light of recovery shine on his shame.
An unknown SA member said, “If you want light, keep the curtains open. The curtains are made of selfishness.”
I was not only driven by a hundred forms of fear, as the Big Book says, but also by a thousand forms of guilt and shame.

Step Nine showed him how to proceed without putting himself down.
I am Tim, from Brussels. I discovered I am a sexaholic about two years ago. After a summer of destructive acting out, a painful rock bottom, and therapy, it became clear that I needed help from a 12-Step program. It was a great relief. I have been addicted to lust since my teenage years without knowing it.

A reflection on 30 years of working the Program reveals a life worth living.
Thirty years ago today, August 8th, 1995, I walked into a church, sat down in a room full of strangers, and said: “My name is Bill and I’m…” Thirty years ago today, I started on a journey called Recovery.

SA helped her see more clearly how she was holding herself back from healing fully.
I haven’t taken much time as of late to consider the role that trauma plays in my consistent relapses. I was abused sexually by my father at 13, and I had sexually abusive relationships from ages 19-22. I entered SA in July of 2021 without realizing my last relationship had ended with me being sexually assaulted. The brain is a funny organ like that.

She found the freedom to choose in sobriety.
Sobriety is a gift that your wise decisions give you. Sobriety is not limited to stopping sexual relations with another person or with yourself—that is only the beginning. Sobriety is having sanity in the face of life. It is exercising the self-control that already resides within you, that was given to you by your Higher Power to choose between what is good for you and what harms you.

With his sponsor’s help, he learned to deal with shame and guilt.
As we persist, a brand-new kind of confidence is born, and the sense of relief at finally facing ourselves is indescribable (Twelve and Twelve 50).

His gratitude list was the hammer that crushed his guilt and shame.
I didn’t think I was fearful. I was a strong, tough male who had gotten in fights before and played contact sports like football, hockey, and rugby. So I thought that I wasn’t afraid of anything.

An elder member in SA helped him see that he was addicted to himself.
“You’re the most arrogant [person] I have ever met!” Although a more colorful word was used instead of “person,” this statement still saved my life.