The following is from Sharing Recovery, a newsletter published by the Connecticut-Westchester Intergroup, June-August 1993:

There are two ways for a group to arrive at a group conscience. One is the competitive way, the other is the cooperative way. In the competitive, you push your ideas across, take a vote, and the majority carry the decision. This leaves behind a disgruntled minority that feel that its truths are lost sight of in the decision.

Ego has been said to mean Edging God Out. How desperately I want to sign this piece so that I’ll be admired and praised — so that I’ll feel less small and gray. But this means I am mistakenly allowing, indeed inviting, others to validate me — thinking that they can fill me up and make me whole.

When I first got sober in AA, service was not an option; it came with the package. When we work through the Steps, we eventually get to Step Twelve, which states that “Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry the message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.” When I came to SA I was told that AA’s Twelve Steps were SA’s Twelve Steps.

The following is taken from the new member orientation format of the Tucson, Arizona SA group:

This is the first meeting of SA in a long time that I’ve been to that no one but myself has attended. It’s OK with me because I need to sit quietly and try to set a course for the day. I’ve been sober two years and two months now. I’ve been forced to attempt the Fourth Step again because I do not know how to live.

Personally I feel that as a sexaholic, any sobriety other than SA’s would give me easy ways out. I just lost a friend because I did not want to have sex with him. Although I miss him, I have absolutely no regrets about having made no compromise with my sobriety. I feel clean.

Only when I own up to my addiction by sharing and getting it outside of myself do I have a real chance of living a sober life. At a recent movie I was not bothered by nakedness in a scene. If I had known there would be nakedness, however, I would not have gone. I rationalized my being there by my ignorance of the fact that there would be nakedness. One cannot control everything that happens around one.

I got the idea some time ago at an SA International Convention to try giving up movies. I could see people getting all excited about going to them, and I began to suspect that something was wrong. As far back as five years old, when they cost less than ten cents, I remember them as being a welcome change from the emotionally impoverished family environment in which I lived. For that reason, they had always been an important source of relief.

The first SA meeting was held here in El Paso recently. At first it was very disappointing. I was the only one there. At first I thought, “I’m the only one with this problem.” Then I remembered ‘Group News’ in the Essay and thought no, I’m not the only one. I’m not all alone.

The SA Conference in New York was absolutely tremendous. I got so much out of it. I have also come to a decision to serve SA on a national or international level by serving on the Loners’ Committee. I am really excited about this and I know it will help my sobriety.

Since the Vancouver International Conference in July 1992, the COOC has met on the telephone about every six weeks and at the conference in New York. COOC members are Betsy T. (Mid-Atlantic Region/Chair); Larry M. and James M. (New England/Special and Finance); David M. (Southeast/Secretary); Sylvia J. (South Central/General Service Board); Jim O. (North Central/Finance); Dave B. and Dan N. (Southwest/Special and Central Office); Harry B. (Northwest/Essay).

[The following ideas resulted from a group inventory done on the problem of continued slipping. These ideas are put forward simply to stimulate discussion and action. Please feed back from your experience.]

Every morning, whether at home or traveling, I take five to ten minutes to complete my daily readings. Like other rituals for my sobriety, such as a daily contract or gratitude lists, this developed in response to a suggestion from my sponsor.

When I began my sobriety in recovery in SA over three years ago, I listened to the Tenth Step as it was read at every meeting. At that time all I could hear was the reflection of my guilt, my shame and my pain. I thought that this Step meant that I would have to quickly proclaim to everyone all the screw-ups that I make in my life. I had enough difficulty revealing my past screw-ups!

Once more it is time for the semi-annual SA/S-Anon International Conference. This July it will be held in Nashville, Tennessee on the 9th, 10th and 11th. Our theme will be “Tools of Recovery.” On behalf of SA and S-Anon here in the Music City, I cordially extend an invitation for three days of growth, fellowship and fun.

After a misunderstanding here in Quebec City, the definition of abstinence is now being transmitted more clearly and it makes me feel very good. I feel safe in SA. It is the real SA, just the way I need it. After a slip last September, I now have complete abstinence. Abstinence has prevented me from doing things and entering relationships that would have brought me a lot of pain, like in the past.

It is with true gratitude that I take this opportunity to let you know that our group is growing in real sobriety with a third member having one year of sobriety. Right now we average around fifteen members per meeting on Sunday night and it is common to see two to three months in length of sobriety. Our group was founded on February 11, 1990.

In the September ’92 issue of Essay you reprinted a letter from the West L.A. Group that was not quite representative and was misleading in what we are doing. Many people read it to mean that we don’t support our intergroup. The fact is that we are the second biggest contributors in our region, even after we divide our second basket in half for our outreach program.

Truly we rely on God, working through our fellowship in our program. We take nothing and no one for granted. All is gift — and we thank the God of our understanding daily for keeping us alive, for our sobriety one day at a time, for enabling us to speak our minds honestly and with love. We realize we must be able to receive help as well as to help others.