Tom struggled with sobriety for many years, and by his willingness to surrender to the grace of God, he enjoyed six years of sobriety. He is described by the members of his group in Phoenix as a source of wisdom, with a fatherlike influence.

First, I’ve got to take responsibility for myself. Of the dozen or so loners in foreign countries I know of who have not been able to stay sober and where groups have not formed, there is one fact in common: They never found their Dr. Bob. That is, they never found one other sexaholic who wanted sobriety. They tried to do it on their own or have it done for them in a ready-made group. They did not come to the desperate willingness to reach out to another and try to help them.

After a year and a half in the program, four months of sobriety, and working steps one through five, I began abstinence from a major trigger for me: television and movies.

My journey into sexual recovery started when, after a particularly sordid and degrading sexual experience, I discovered I had crab lice. When I realized this, there was a sinking feeling of terror in the pit of my stomach…. Waiting three months for the result of an HIV test, fearing the worst and wondering — knowing — what the reaction of my wife would be, was the most painful experience of my life.

The Second Australian SA Conference was held over the weekend of May. Some 16 members attended from various parts of Australia. The conference was a milestone for SA in Australia in many ways. One meeting was open to non-sexaholics.

The Wheeling, West Virginia-Steubenville, OH, SA groups (members of the Pittsburgh Tri-State Intergroup) recently hosted their Third Annual Spring Retreat on Saturday, June 1. It was a wonderful chance to spend a recovery-filled day with members of the fellowship.

In Madrid we are trying to live in the solution and not in the problem. Before the regular one-hour Sunday meeting where we read and comment on a piece of official SA literature “to relate our sharing to some aspect of what we have read,” we are having on a trial basis a half-hour Tradition meeting. We’ve already been through several items of Discovering the Principles and are going to start to read Guidelines for Group Recovery, which has just been translated into Spanish.

I was 44 years old, married for 23 years, a father of four children and a successful professional person. Yet there I was, leaving a porno store, disgusted with myself once again. It was hopeless. Anonymous sex had become a daily occurrence. I knew I was going to lose my wife, my children and my profession. I was ready to lose it all rather than fight it one more moment.

Two duly, newly elected bodies of SA share similar names, the Oversight Assembly and the Oversight Committee. This has resulted in confusion on the part of the members and those dealing with these two bodies.

Recently, I received the Essay containing an article which I found most helpful in understanding my own recovery from the deadly disease called lust and its main components — resentment, fear, criticism, hate, etc. “Spiritual Fornication” described very well what is happening to me in my relationships with others and how effective it is in shutting God out of my consciousness.

My name is Alex. I’m a gratefully recovering sexaholic. By God’s grace and not by any human power at all, I have been free of the tyranny of lust since July 23, 1990.

The Loners Committee is alive and well, and communicating all over the world! In the past six months, Loners Committee members in 22 states and seven countries have sent and received over 175 pieces of correspondence. Thank God.

My name is Eric S. and I am a gratefully recovering sexaholic. I have been sexually sober for over five months and am on my Fourth Step.

I have been sober for about a year now in SA by the grace of God. I like movies and I like to rent action films. My favorite show as a kid was Starsky and Hutch. I always wanted to be a cop and carry a gun. In fact, in grade school, I used to carry a dart gun.

On April 26, 27, and 28th, the Northwest region met at Camp Kwomais in Surrey, British Columbia for the Celebrate Recovery SA/S-Anon retreat sponsored by the Victoria, B.C. intergroup. The camp overlooks the beautiful Puget Sound. The accommodations were rustic, and snoring abounded, but the fellowship was excellent.

When I was asked to speak at the SA/S-Anon meeting, the topic especially interested me. “Two Sides of the Same Coin” brought to mind my First Step and the utter despair I found myself in when I was alone, without God’s strength, God’s hope and God’s love. My disease of looking for others to fill my “God-need” is a mis-connection that leads to disaster.

The conference last September was excellent. Mike D. from upstate NY kicked off the day with a great talk on the importance of working the Twelve Steps. The theme of the convention was: “The Importance of Working the 12 Steps — the Original Approach.” That meant we got back to the basics of the original program of AA by using the 12 Steps, the 10 points of Chapter 5 in the Big Book, and the 4 Absolutes of the Oxford Group, where Bill, Bob, and Ebby got sober.

I have just returned from SA U.K.’s Spring Convention, held at The Grail, Pinner, fired with a deep sense of the True Connection — the title of the event. Thirty sober SAs attended, men and women, including one S-Anon and visitors from Ireland, Germany and the U.S. Our sessions seemed to develop naturally through the Steps to the Traditions, giving a tremendous boost to my own personal recovery with a strong sense of what its whole purpose is: to carry the message.

On January 7, 1986, SA came to Wichita, Kansas, with the first meeting of several people in St. Luke’s Church. It was a very small beginning but profound because Wichita would never be the same city again. A few people hurt badly enough in their own addiction to gather together to “spit in the soup” of sexaholics in the metropolitan Wichita area.

In July 1985, a 12-Step meeting for sex addiction started in Pittsburgh as an outgrowth of group counseling sessions. All the members had to go on was the pamphlet AA 12 Steps and 12 Traditions. In December of that year, members found out there was a national organization called Sexaholics Anonymous, contacted SA for information and literature, and joined SA in March of 1986.