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MARCH 2016

THIRTY YEARS SOBER: STILL SURRENDERING FANTASY

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A Use for a Desire Chip
Not long ago, I did it: I put a Desire chip in my mouth. And no, it didn’t melt.

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Be Careful What You Pray For!
I have always been amused by the phrase, “Be careful what you pray for—you might get it!”

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One Day At a Time
These days seem so hard at times; I keep looking for a text that will never come, a phone call that will never be made. I miss the smile and laughter I once heard and the kindness I once felt.

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Practicing These Principles In All Our Affairs: Flip Turns
“I want to quit” is in my mind nearly every time I go a pool to swim laps. I have learned that “I want to quit!” means that I’m doing something that matters and that finishing it will benefit me. Only when I’m doing something important does my “I want to quit!” thought come to my head.

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My Take on Meditation
Does meditation impact my recovery? Absolutely! I meditate in order to formulate how to complete each Step. I find meditation to be helpful to new members to simplify the Step process.

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Addicted To Sex And Lust: The Battle Within
Part of me knew from very early on that I was a sexaholic. Part of me didn’t want to admit that or accept it. Part of me wanted to be rid of “the addict.” Part of me wanted to give into that and just enjoy my acting out.

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Humility and Honesty
My natural tendency is to vacillate between pride and shame. Maybe I hit moments of humility somewhere in between. It occurs to me that both pride and shame are dishonest states of being, while humility is completely honest.

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Thirty Years Sober: Still Surrendering Fantasy
It was July 31, 2015, and I was in the shower. Without warning, in the space of about a minute and a half, three different lust images came through my thoughts. Soon after I let the first one go—20 or 30 seconds later—here came another! Soon after I let that one go, there was a third!

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SA Talks to “Johns”
Recently I had the great good fortune to speak at a joint women’s shelter / District Attorney’s program for men arrested in prostitution stings. They don’t want to be there.

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San Diego 2016 Convention Reflections
The recent 2016 SA International Convention in San Diego, California was my first experience of such a gathering. My first years of SA consisted mostly of phone meetings, working with a phone sponsor and attending lots of other recovery group meetings face to face.

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