Magazine

AUGUST 2025

"Happy, Joyous, and … Single”– Being single can seem like a disease that we want to treat with lust. As we grow in sobriety, however, being single becomes a joy and freedom as we learn how to relate, serve, and interact with those around us. What a wonderful discovery to experience a rich and meaningful life, whether we are single or married. The 12 Steps and the Fellowship of SA make this possible. What we were really looking for was the Real Connection. In recovery, that is what we find.

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Happy? Joyous? Single.
Sobriety has helped him deal with the highs and lows of being single. I am single. I am not always happy, joyous, and free. It can be lonely. Divorce is painful. I don't feel happy, joyous, and free.

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Sober, Single, and Dancing
Learning how to surrender and open up to healthy activities affirmed that he belonged. My name is Ryan, and I am a child of my Higher Power. As a former SA sponsor once humorously suggested, “You qualify to be in the program, you are one of us!”

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Moving the One-Year Dating Line
Having had a spiritual experience has allowed her to accept the plans God has for her personal life. Sitting in the counselor's office in early 2020, I voiced my biggest fear: that one day my sexual behavior would destroy a marriage.

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There I Am Also
Good service leadership at all levels is indispensable for our future functioning and safety. I began service in SA to practice leadership based on the principles and values I am learning from our 12-Step program and to learn a new sober way of life and functioning in the world. SA service means I am too focused on helping sexaholics find the Program and affirming them in their recovery.

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Not That Different
Hearing others share from their weakness helped him realize he was not alone. Hi, I’m Justin, I'm a grateful recovering sexaholic. I came to SA in 2019 when a priest friend introduced me to the Fellowship. I had just started a new job and it was summertime. He invited me to a meeting, gave me the SA White Book, and encouraged me to attend. At that first meeting, I heard other men share openly about their struggles—not just with masturbation and pornography, but with lust itself. I immediately felt connected. For the first time, I realized I wasn’t alone.

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Contentment in His Care
Surrendering her life to God through the steps I am single in SA. And I am content. How is that possible? It is possible because I feel content each day as I surrender to my Higher Power's care. I don't look into the future about what that means. My focus is on today.

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Dealing With Infatuation
Detachment was the path that led him to a break from the unreal and to seek what was real. Without a doubt, my program is one of progress, not perfection. It has taken me some years to understand how infatuation has kept me bound to lust. Infatuation, I believe, is a distortion of reality. What begins in me as a natural response, appreciating what is attractive in another person, slides out of reality and into the realm of fantasy.

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The Healing Began
As a result of working the Program, this member likes the man he is growing into. Before SA and recovery from chronic lusting and the acting out that followed, I was frequently lost in fantasy, on dating apps, or in an “intimate encounter.” The irony was, there was nothing intimate about it. This behavior eroded away my soul and made me feel deeply ashamed. It was also causing aggravation, fear, and intimidation–albeit unintentionally. Like any good ol’ sexaholic, I could not stop.

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The Lifeboat of the Fellowship
Participating in the Fellowship helped him to accept his disease and to laugh with those carrying the message to him. Ontario's SA Spring Retreat 2025, themed "Acceptance is the Answer", took place from Friday, May 23rd–Sunday, May 25th, coordinated by the Peterborough SA group.

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Finding Freedom Through the Big Book
She decided to give away what was freely given to her. As I reflect on my journey in recovery, I'm filled with gratitude for the AA Big Book and those who have carried its message. Working the steps as they're written in the Big Book has been the most transformative path to true freedom that I’ve experienced.

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